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Hi,
I'm a 21 year old college student studying abroad. And I've been depressed for most of the time I've been here. I feel physically drained every day. Some days I just lie in bed and cry. I have tried to schedule more activities to keep myself busy when I'm not in class and I don't think its helping. I volunteer here- which I normally would enjoy but its still a struggle to get myself to go. I try to have a plan for something active to do every day- like today I was going to go shoe shopping but right now I feel like its just too hard.
I have met some really nice people and I get social invitations sometimes and I do go out with friends. And yet its difficult to even focus on another person when I'm having a conversation with them. I sleep for 10 hours and a time and I'm still sleepy. I've been losing weight ever since I got here too- and I don't know how to gain it back. I hate how thin I've gotten and I know its not healthy- but its so hard to eat. I make myself eat at least three times a day and I feel nauseated all the time.
I tried to find a therapist here that spoke English but I couldn't get in touch with one. I don't know if a therapist would help anyways. There's nothing wrong in my life here- except that I'm miserable. I wish I had an objective problem I could fix but I don't.
Thank you for reading- I'm not sure that there's really anything you can do for me, but I needed to tell someone and have them take it seriously. How do I know when I should just give up and go home?
I'm a 21 year old college student studying abroad. And I've been depressed for most of the time I've been here. I feel physically drained every day. Some days I just lie in bed and cry. I have tried to schedule more activities to keep myself busy when I'm not in class and I don't think its helping. I volunteer here- which I normally would enjoy but its still a struggle to get myself to go. I try to have a plan for something active to do every day- like today I was going to go shoe shopping but right now I feel like its just too hard.
I have met some really nice people and I get social invitations sometimes and I do go out with friends. And yet its difficult to even focus on another person when I'm having a conversation with them. I sleep for 10 hours and a time and I'm still sleepy. I've been losing weight ever since I got here too- and I don't know how to gain it back. I hate how thin I've gotten and I know its not healthy- but its so hard to eat. I make myself eat at least three times a day and I feel nauseated all the time.
I tried to find a therapist here that spoke English but I couldn't get in touch with one. I don't know if a therapist would help anyways. There's nothing wrong in my life here- except that I'm miserable. I wish I had an objective problem I could fix but I don't.
Thank you for reading- I'm not sure that there's really anything you can do for me, but I needed to tell someone and have them take it seriously. How do I know when I should just give up and go home?
Απάντηση
Dear friend,
Thank you, first of all, for contacting us. It seems that recently you have been having a difficult time and some of the descriptions in your letter, like the long hours of sleep, weight loss, bad mood etc. may be indicating that you might be having a period of depression or anxiety. It is really important that you understand the situation and that you have taken some steps to ask for help.
As you say, although you have tried to schedule your day, you find it difficult to go out with such a mood – you feel like everything is a struggle and that your energy has been drained. I wonder if something has happened recently that may have affected you and have caused this situation, but from your letter it seems that there isn’t. Is there, for example, any possibility that your studies and the anxiety that go with them to have stressed you so much? Does it affect you the fact that you study away from your family? Either way, it really seems that your life has changed in a negative way and that you can not at this moment do the things that you used to do. You sound somehow sceptical about asking help from a specialist, but I couldn’t understand why. It seems as if you don’t have the willingness to go to a specialist and I wondered if you had a negative experience in the past. The specialist could listen to you, discuss with you and give you some guidance according to your problem, which you may not think of right now, because your mood prevents you from thinking clearly. You could ask if your college offers any psychological help to the students and use it- and even if you don’t know the language well you could just do a simple conversation (it could be good for you to just share your worries).
Moreover, it would be truly useful to talk to a friend or someone you trust about all the things you have been experiencing, in order to have some support, as it is not easy to pass it all alone. If you feel that you can not communicate with a psychologist where you are or that things are getting really hard, you could consider of returning to your country and your family and seek some psychological help from a specialist there. It would be important for you not to leave yourself as is at this moment and to think first that your health is more important, so that you could maybe put aside your studies for a few days (which you will do anyway if you don’t feel better), weeks or as much time as you need.
We hope that we have helped you and that everything goes well.
We would be glad to answer to you in case you communicated again with e-help.
Best,
D.
Thank you, first of all, for contacting us. It seems that recently you have been having a difficult time and some of the descriptions in your letter, like the long hours of sleep, weight loss, bad mood etc. may be indicating that you might be having a period of depression or anxiety. It is really important that you understand the situation and that you have taken some steps to ask for help.
As you say, although you have tried to schedule your day, you find it difficult to go out with such a mood – you feel like everything is a struggle and that your energy has been drained. I wonder if something has happened recently that may have affected you and have caused this situation, but from your letter it seems that there isn’t. Is there, for example, any possibility that your studies and the anxiety that go with them to have stressed you so much? Does it affect you the fact that you study away from your family? Either way, it really seems that your life has changed in a negative way and that you can not at this moment do the things that you used to do. You sound somehow sceptical about asking help from a specialist, but I couldn’t understand why. It seems as if you don’t have the willingness to go to a specialist and I wondered if you had a negative experience in the past. The specialist could listen to you, discuss with you and give you some guidance according to your problem, which you may not think of right now, because your mood prevents you from thinking clearly. You could ask if your college offers any psychological help to the students and use it- and even if you don’t know the language well you could just do a simple conversation (it could be good for you to just share your worries).
Moreover, it would be truly useful to talk to a friend or someone you trust about all the things you have been experiencing, in order to have some support, as it is not easy to pass it all alone. If you feel that you can not communicate with a psychologist where you are or that things are getting really hard, you could consider of returning to your country and your family and seek some psychological help from a specialist there. It would be important for you not to leave yourself as is at this moment and to think first that your health is more important, so that you could maybe put aside your studies for a few days (which you will do anyway if you don’t feel better), weeks or as much time as you need.
We hope that we have helped you and that everything goes well.
We would be glad to answer to you in case you communicated again with e-help.
Best,
D.