Απάντηση
Dear X,
Thank you for writing and sharing your problem with us. It is very normal for you to be feeling like this, having to deal with what’s happening in your child’s life. First of all, in order to be able to help her, you need to get support yourself. Remember that when we are in a plane, we are reminded that in case of an emergency, first the adults should wear their oxygen masks before they put it on their children. Parents are not super human and need to be supported and prepared for the role they can or should play in their child’s life.
Second of all, if your child has been diagnosed with depression, anti-depressants alone will not be as effective as in combination with psychotherapy. She needs to see a professional, who will help her understand her depression and support her in taking responsibility for her life. You don’t mention anything about her relationship to you and your husband. Does she feel close to you? Is there anyone in her life that she is truly connected to? Stress and panic attacks can be triggered by a sense of loss and feelings of insecurity. She needs to feel connected and that her emotional needs will be met. A professional will also be able to help her to see how any faulty beliefs she may have may be responsible for her depression. He or she will also help her to re-evaluate the choices she has made for herself and whether she still values them enough to pursue them. Depression and stress need to be managed, as they can also negatively affect her performance at university.
Unfortunately, noone can force her to see a psychologist, and she’ll only benefit from counselling if she decides on her own that she needs help. In the meantime, I would remind her that there is a psychologist on campus, whom she can visit for free, and that many students take advantage of this service. You could try listening to her and her concerns and show her that you understand and will stand by her in her search for meaning and happiness. This will bring you closer and you will give her the opportunity to ’connect’ with a quality person in her life. You could also offer to visit her and spend some time with her now that she’s preparing for exams in order to ’be there’ for her and offer her any support she feels she can get from you.
Yours
D.S.