Dear,

Thank you for writing and sharing your problem with us. Your decision
to reach out and ask for help is a positive step in the right
direction and shows that you value life and want to be happy.

You mention that your family was against some life choices of yours,
which triggered your suicidal thoughts. Have you always valued their
opinion above your own? Do you need their approval in order to feel
good about yourself? If this is the case, you’ve probably learned to
rely on their praise – and now that you don’t have it, it has made you
feel insecure and ‘feeling incapable of facing life’. Relying on other
people’s praise and approval can make us have low self-esteem when our
efforts are not acknowledged. Every day we are faced with new
challenges, which we have to confront. Sometimes we succeed and
sometimes we don’t. We have to learn to accept situations which don’t
turn out the way we expected, and not be too hard on ourselves. But
most importantly, we need to feel that we are in control of and have a
right to our choices, and that the way we live our life is meaningful
to us. You could start looking more carefully at what it is about your
life that you find meaningful and what it is that makes you unhappy.
You could keep a diary and write down the times when you’re feeling
anxious, empty, happy or fulfilled. You’ll gradually become aware of
the areas in your life which need to be changed or remain the same.

I have tried to deal with your problem based on the information you’ve
given me. However, as you say, ‘it’s a long story’. It is important
for you to see a professional, who will be able to give you the
support and help you need in order to deal with your suicidal thoughts
and any other issues you may be having which are preventing you from
living a meaningful life. You are very lucky to have a loving husband
by your side, who will be supportive of your efforts.

Good luck

Yours
D.S.